The Billys is a community of hundreds of open-hearted gay, bi and queer men who join together in Gatherings six times a year in extraordinary rural venues throughout Northern California. Each gathering is a work of art, carefully crafted by Billys to take us to places of joy and playfulness, intimacy and openness. We come together to play games, hike, make yummy food, play music, cuddle, meditate, frolic, do yoga, and learn from each other.

heart to heart
The crown jewel of nearly every Billy gathering is something we call Heart Circle – a time to share what’s on our hearts and listen with an open heart. It is the juice that has kept our community going since 1988. Between gatherings, some Billys meet for potlucks and Heart Circles, for hikes or to help each other out, to do fundraising or to attend cultural events together.

 Upcoming Gathering



MidWinter 2018: Only Connect!

March 1 -4, 2018

Today, most of us feel “connected”. Virtual groups, chat, texting and social media promise contact and inclusion but may actually increase feelings of loneliness and isolation. Connection and Community have remained core values of the Billys for 30 years. They deepen our relationships, unite our families, and strengthen all the communities to which we belong. In gathering together, we will experience and examine the ways in which we connect or fail to connect, our expectations of community, and the crucial role of real-life engagement in creating and maintaining true connection and lasting community. This gathering welcomes all Billys (gay, bi, or queer men, including trans men).

Scholarship Deadline is Wednesday, February 7 at 5pm

Regular Registration Deadline is February 14 at 5pm

Registration will CLOSE February 21 at 5pm. 


Call with Paper Registration Form




Eating, swimming and frolicking in the woods are only half the story. What goes on behind every gathering is a community of people offering their vision and talents to create these magical events. The payoff? Being part of an intentional community and sharing one’s unique skills and open heart. We love new Billys, join us!


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