The Billys is a community of hundreds of open-hearted gay, bi and queer men who join together in Gatherings six times a year in extraordinary rural venues throughout Northern California. Each gathering is a work of art, carefully crafted by Billys to take us to places of joy and playfulness, intimacy and openness. We come together to play games, hike, make yummy food, play music, cuddle, meditate, frolic, do yoga, and learn from each other.

heart to heart
The crown jewel of nearly every Billy gathering is something we call Heart Circle – a time to share what’s on our hearts and listen with an open heart. It is the juice that has kept our community going since 1988. Between gatherings, some Billys meet for potlucks and Heart Circles, for hikes or to help each other out, to do fundraising or to attend cultural events together.

 Upcoming Gathering


Labor Day 2017: Walking With Wisdom

What comes to mind when you think of wisdom? Who is the wisest person you know? Who are the sages in our tribe? Who is missing? What is the role of an Elder in our community? Are you an Elder? Are you learning? What do you have to teach or share with us? Can we find the fun and joy amidst the challenges? Can we make the shadows more bearable? Can we change the world with our play?

Register online here   Download the call here




Eating, swimming and frolicking in the woods are only half the story. What goes on behind every gathering is a community of people offering their vision and talents to create these magical events. The payoff? Being part of an intentional community and sharing one’s unique skills and open heart. We love new Billys, join us!

Annual Report 2016-17 The Annual Report is available here

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