The Billys is a community of hundreds of open-hearted gay, bi and queer men who join together in Gatherings six times a year in extraordinary rural venues throughout Northern California. Each gathering is a work of art, carefully crafted by Billys to take us to places of joy and playfulness, intimacy and openness. We come together to play games, hike, make yummy food, play music, cuddle, meditate, frolic, do yoga, and learn from each other.

heart to heart
The crown jewel of nearly every Billy gathering is something we call Heart Circle – a time to share what’s on our hearts and listen with an open heart. It is the juice that has kept our community going since 1988. Between gatherings, some Billys meet for potlucks and Heart Circles, for hikes or to help each other out, to do fundraising or to attend cultural events together.

 Upcoming Gathering


New Year’s 2018: Pearls of Wisdom

December 27, 2017 – January 1, 2018

2018 marks the 30th anniversary of the founding of the Billys.  As the pearl is the traditional symbol of a 30th anniversary, we have selected this beautiful gem to mark this wonderful milestone.

Who are we in the world?  Why are we here?  How must we treat one another?  For if we cannot begin to answer those questions, it doesn’t matter who is in power, we will always be chasing our own shadows.  Cynicism is no longer a choice. It is a danger zone for our psyches and the planet.  Let us free ourselves of the epidemic of self-indulgence and embrace integrity as right sized agents of change. How will you recognize the source of your pain, own it, and surround it with nacre to make a gem?

Scholarship Deadline is Wednesday, December 6 at 5pm

Regular Registration Deadline is December 13 at 5pm

Registration will close December 18 at 5pm. 


Call with Paper Registration Form




Eating, swimming and frolicking in the woods are only half the story. What goes on behind every gathering is a community of people offering their vision and talents to create these magical events. The payoff? Being part of an intentional community and sharing one’s unique skills and open heart. We love new Billys, join us!


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