The Billy Memorial


Listen more often to things than to beings
'Tis the ancestors' breath when the fire’s voice is heard
'Tis the ancestors' breath in the voice of the water
- Birago Diop

Billy Gatherings are so ‘present tense.’ We gather, we leave, ebb and flow. Over time, it’s inevitable that our memories of Billys now gone have begun to fade. We forget a name, but remember a face; remember a moment but forget what he looked like. We grieve a loss, but then he becomes history. The combined impact and rapidity of our losses from AIDS at the height of the epidemic was devastating. Even so, the loss of any Billy is a blow to our community.

One way to keep the spirit alive of Billys now gone is in this Memorial Page. We’re a group with a rich history, filled with great personalities of every sort. Even as we evolve together, we don’t want to lose what’s come before. Here, we honor all Billys, those lost to the epidemic or in other ways. And we honor ourselves by keeping our hearts open to what has come before. And for those who have yet to find us, here are the names and faces of those who will be your history one day.

We want to thank so many for their support in putting this together.  To name just a few, Mark Weigle, Marcus Borgman, Bill Blackburn, Joe Arcangelini, Terry Brown, Charlie Seltzer, Paul Mueller and the Board, and Mugwort of RadFae.org (many men moved between Billy and Faerie circles).  We have worked together as a single unit creating this page and collecting the material for it, and it’s been an honor to have added to the many memorial activities (Mark Weigle’s panel project for example or Joe A’s photo albums) that have happened over the years. 

Collecting information for events that have happened, in some instances, over twenty years ago means that there are likely errors and omissions. Please write David at  if you have any additions, corrections, updates or pictures. You’ll find an Archive Page that lists everyone. Click on a name and you’ll be taken to an individual’s page. If you encounter a "flower" symbol, this indicates that either the information is incomplete or missing. 

As Beautiful Dove used to say,
Roses from our hearts to yours,

Chris Lombardi and David Grossblat

August, 2016


Our Billy Ancestors

butterfly billy

For Billys We No Longer Remember

Brian White

ARRIVED   May 23, 1960
DEPARTED   June 11, 2014

Don Cate

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Kelly
attended the Manchester Gathering

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Anderson, Christopher Tate
Gryphon Blackswan

ARRIVED   April 19, 1951
DEPARTED   April 18, 1996

Armstrong, William Donald

ARRIVED   May 30, 1939
DEPARTED   March 8, 2015

Baker, David
Beautiful Dove

ARRIVED   February 18, 1947
DEPARTED   February 20, 2002

Balchalk, Robert
Bobby

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Barnes, Gene
Portia Manson

ARRIVED   October 1, 1964
DEPARTED   October 9, 1995

Barrett, Jason

ARRIVED   November 8, 1954
DEPARTED   September 6, 1994

Batten, Will
Wilma

ARRIVED   April 28, 1954
DEPARTED   March 25, 1991

Battershill, Jim

ARRIVED   June 25, 1943
DEPARTED   February 19, 1995

Bell, Jeremy

ARRIVED   1948  
DEPARTED   1989  

Bennett, Richard

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1999  

Bense, Buzz/Bernhard
Gabriel

ARRIVED   January 23, 1949
DEPARTED   November 19, 2016

Benson, Tom

ARRIVED   February 11, 1947
DEPARTED   May 12, 2014

Beyer, Richard Drummond

ARRIVED   July 23, 1934
DEPARTED   May 15, 1995

Boynton, Lee

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   2000  

Branum, Jackson

ARRIVED   January 13, 1952
DEPARTED   May 18, 2003

Brent, Bill

ARRIVED   July 17, 1960
DEPARTED   August 18, 2012

Burnside, John

ARRIVED   November 12, 1916
DEPARTED   September 14, 2008

Cason, Marshall

ARRIVED   September 19, 1949
DEPARTED   1995  

Charlesworth, Jim

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   2014  

Charlip, Remy

ARRIVED   January 10, 1929
DEPARTED   August 14, 2012

Chilton, Rodney

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   July 23, 2016

Christensen, Tom

ARRIVED   December 18, 1957
DEPARTED   April 22, 2003

Church, Jok

ARRIVED   November 28, 1949
DEPARTED   April 29, 2016

Colella, Bob

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1999  

Connolly, Paul

ARRIVED   May 1, 1962
DEPARTED   March 29, 2017

Conrad, Bob
Goat

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   2014  

Crandall, Vern Ray Thaddeus
Tad

ARRIVED   July 9, 1967
DEPARTED   September 7, 2011

Cwiakala, John

ARRIVED   May 2, 1952
DEPARTED   September 16, 2012

DeBeni, Doug

ARRIVED   February 5, 1957
DEPARTED   September 22, 1994

DeMara, Nicholas
Nick

ARRIVED   June 6, 1945
DEPARTED   October 5, 2018

Dennett, Ron

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1991  

Deskins, Daniel Raymond
Brother Daniel Mary Magdalene

ARRIVED   May 28, 1958
DEPARTED   July 22, 1996

Devall, Bill

ARRIVED   December 2, 1938
DEPARTED   June 26, 2009

Dubbs, Greg

ARRIVED   November 8, 1952
DEPARTED   June 11, 1998

Fallas, Steve

ARRIVED   December 8, 1957
DEPARTED   April 8, 2001

Fasic, Robert
Bob

ARRIVED   April 10, 1940
DEPARTED   October 2, 2016

Feld, Rick

ARRIVED   May 26, 1945
DEPARTED   December 4, 1995

Frary, Steve

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Friedman, Brian

ARRIVED   March 20, 1955
DEPARTED   July 18, 2010

Fugelsang, Bill

ARRIVED   March 4, 1958
DEPARTED   August 29, 2002

Golden, Mitch

ARRIVED   February 4, 1951
DEPARTED   October 12, 2001

Grant, Preston

ARRIVED   March 5, 1960
DEPARTED   May 25, 2017

Grant, Will

ARRIVED   May 20, 1947
DEPARTED   2014  

Greenman, Nymphaea

ARRIVED   November 7, 1952
DEPARTED   February 13, 1995

Haley, Brian

ARRIVED   April 13, 1956
DEPARTED   August 18, 2017

Halpern, Dan

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1995

Hanna, Mike

ARRIVED   1947  
DEPARTED   January 11, 2006

Hathaway, Michael

ARRIVED   November 11, 1941
DEPARTED   January 2, 2019

Hayes, Stephen
Redwood

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1999  

Hershy, Ben

ARRIVED   July 17, 1958
DEPARTED   December 24, 1999

Holick, John

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1994  

Huddleston, Michael

ARRIVED   June 29, 1951
DEPARTED   April 22, 1992

Hughson, Jim

ARRIVED   June 19, 1944
DEPARTED   December 11, 2012

Hunter, Alan

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   December 18, 2011

Johnson, Darrel

ARRIVED   October 21, 1942
DEPARTED   September 7, 2014

Johnson, Steve

ARRIVED   December 8, 1960
DEPARTED   May 10, 2015

Jones, Christopher Colorado

ARRIVED   January 12, 1949
DEPARTED   June 29, 2019

Jones, Davey

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1996  

Jones, Martin

ARRIVED   March 28, 1943
DEPARTED   June 11, 2018

Joseph, Leo
Brother Leo

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Kitchen, Guy

ARRIVED   December 17, 1961
DEPARTED   December 29, 1998

Klehm, Brook

ARRIVED   November 13, 1956
DEPARTED   October 27, 2010

Kukulka, Joe

ARRIVED   September 17, 1950
DEPARTED   January 26, 2018

Lagasse, Maurice Lee

ARRIVED   April 14, 1954
DEPARTED   February 22, 1993

Lee, Eddie

ARRIVED   October 4, 1952
DEPARTED   February 28, 1996

Liebman, Marty

ARRIVED   November 28, 1942
DEPARTED   April 20, 2001

Locke, Richard
Butterfly

ARRIVED   June 11, 1941
DEPARTED   September 25, 1996

Lovato, Vincent

ARRIVED   November 24, 1954
DEPARTED   August 16, 1994

Lowe, Sanford
Sandy

ARRIVED   October 27, 1935
DEPARTED   March 21, 2005

Lowen, Lanz

ARRIVED   February 5, 1953
DEPARTED   March 22, 2019

Mapp, Tom
Shine

ARRIVED   August 28, 1947
DEPARTED   February 18, 1995

Massa, Enrique
Quique

ARRIVED   June 30, 1960
DEPARTED   September 29, 2017

Matson, Gary

ARRIVED   July 6, 1949
DEPARTED   July 1, 1999

McBride, Don

ARRIVED   1953  
DEPARTED   1993  

McKay, David

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1993  

Mehall, Steve

ARRIVED   July 31, 1959
DEPARTED   August 12, 1996

Minns, Carl
Carl Lasagna

ARRIVED   June 26, 1963
DEPARTED   March 3, 2015

Moran, Michael

ARRIVED   November 29, 1950
DEPARTED   March 5, 2003

Mowder, Winfield Scott

ARRIVED   May 30, 1959
DEPARTED   July 1, 1999

Murphy, Doug

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   October 4, 1995

O'Connell, Stephen

ARRIVED   January 30, 1951
DEPARTED   October 8, 2016

Paskewitz, Bill

ARRIVED   August 5, 1953
DEPARTED   November 20, 2014

Passmore, David

ARRIVED   October 29, 1932
DEPARTED   November 29, 2017

Patrick, David

ARRIVED   April 16, 1952
DEPARTED   September 9, 2001

Pearson, Louis

ARRIVED   1954  
DEPARTED   May 2, 1998

Pilling, Jack

ARRIVED   1935  
DEPARTED   November 28, 2013

Ploe, Richard
Riku

ARRIVED   November 15, 1945
DEPARTED   December 9, 2018

Pregil, Paul
Data Bear

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1996  

Priebe, Bruce

ARRIVED   December 18, 1951
DEPARTED   May 21, 1994

Rath, Richard

ARRIVED   May 15, 1954
DEPARTED   June 16, 1996

Redding, Michael

ARRIVED   October 23, 1948
DEPARTED   September 2, 2002

Robinson, Alfred

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   May 1, 2005

Ross, Danny

ARRIVED   June 17, 1945
DEPARTED   January 3, 1996

Rubin, Danny

ARRIVED   September 30, 1960
DEPARTED   January 13, 2020

Russell, Wesley
Wessie

ARRIVED   June 14, 1929
DEPARTED   October 24, 2008

Schmidt, Joshua

ARRIVED   May 29, 1963
DEPARTED   March 28, 1996

Schultz, Greg

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1991  

Schwartz, Paul

ARRIVED   July 4, 1966
DEPARTED   January 27, 2006

Scofield, Stewart

ARRIVED   March 26, 1948
DEPARTED   April 19, 2008

Sommers, Michael
Honeydew

ARRIVED   August 1, 1950
DEPARTED   July 16, 1995

Spellman, Pratt

ARRIVED   1903  
DEPARTED   May 28, 2000

Spencer, Bobby

ARRIVED   February 18, 1111  
DEPARTED   January 3, 2017  

Steele, Al
from the earliest Gatherings

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Stewart, David
Light Eagle

ARRIVED   February 24, 1964
DEPARTED   October 2, 1999

Storch, Kim
Raven

ARRIVED   July 18, 1949
DEPARTED   May 28, 2000

Stotts, Keith

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Tadros, Jon
Timegiver

ARRIVED   February 14, 1966
DEPARTED   February 6, 2012

Taliesin,
Taliesin

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   1993  

The Cook, Kent

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Thompsen, Jack

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Thompson, Bruce

ARRIVED   September 15, 1966
DEPARTED   December 5, 2018

Tomlinson, Chris

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   ...  

Vargas, Bob

ARRIVED   July 3, 1954
DEPARTED   January 25, 1997

von Braun, Hans

ARRIVED   April 1944  
DEPARTED   February 13, 2005

Ward, Stan

ARRIVED   ...  
DEPARTED   December 13, 1992

Wiggin, Ronald Toby
Toby

ARRIVED   July 27, 1960  
DEPARTED   August 16, 2019  

Williams, Wade

ARRIVED   January 19, 1953
DEPARTED   July 18, 1996

Wolff, Arthur
Buzz

ARRIVED   March 12, 1948
DEPARTED   May 18, 1993